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Veronica’s Transfer

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Dear Veronica,

One year ago white men came on Indian land and took you away. Away you went from your home, your family, your people, and your land. We pray for forgiveness to overtake us so we waste no negative energy toward those who do not know what they have done.

Oh, they know they have taken you from your daddy and your family. What they don’t know plays out in their day-to-day life. Unrest, lack of peace, anxiety, guilt, and shame become points of reference until they no longer have meaning. Then a consciousness of unforgiveness and blatant disregard for the value of family and human dignity become the driving force.

Please know how much you are loved. So many people continue to pray, plan for, and anticipate your return to your home, your family, and your people. Veronica, your temporary displacement from your home will eventually come full circle. Your daddy and all your family love you.

Your Native Oklahoma Family

5 Steps to Being Ready to Adopt

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You can know you are ready to adopt when:

1) You don’t have a need for a child but a desire to provide parenting to a child whose parents cannot.

2) You are willing to keep an historical and relational connection to a child’s biological family without conditions. Getting a copy of the original birth certificate is mandatory and can be accomplished at the time of adoption.

3) You recognize the child as an individual whose DNA and biology will not match yours but understand they deserve love as all children do.

4) You are willing to be second. An adopted child has first parents. God loves the first parents as much as He loves the second. Adoption embraces human design not God’s design.

5) Most importantly!!! Love is not enough. Is love required? Absolutely, but as human beings, the love offered falls far short of what will conquer feelings when behaviors become overwhelming, when rejection seems to be all that is offered, when a child whose life was enhanced by being provided a family doesn’t seem “grateful” enough.

Preparation for adoption requires emotional and mental stability that can withstand normal upsets magnified a hundred times. Adoption brings a set of challenges that add a layer of unknown, unfamiliar, unattached feelings. Adoption requires in depth, ongoing support and resources. Adoption hardly represents the wonderful world of an optional way to create a family; “the new pregnant;” or getting a brother or sister for an already existing family.

Remember the old adage “if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is”? I would suggest adoption falls into that category. Is adoption a wonderful option for a child who has no family willing or able to raise them, indeed! Legislation must be designed and implemented to allow adoptees to obtain their original birth certificate with “required” accurate information at the age of majority. No reason exists for an American citizen to be denied their original birth certificate into perpetuity.

Read and be informed on all the issues in adoption. One reason for failed adoptions and unhappy adoptive situations is because the information was lacking and decisions made about adopting were founded on that information. Be wary of the “wonderful” stories and testimonies on adoption sites and the “happily-ever-after” testimonies by agencies or adoption agents who profit from making adoptions happen.

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The Practice of Adoption

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529208_536657923084030_2038056997_n“Are you pregnant, scared, with no one to talk to? We can help you with finances, medical expenses and secure a great home for your baby. There are many loving families who can provide a stable home with all the advantages for a child.”

This message simulates the messages that lure mothers who find themselves in an unplanned pregnancy. A “loving and right” choice offers the mom a way of “redeeming” herself in this untimely circumstance. Unfortunately, while the websites and billboards of adoption agencies make adoption sound like a panacea for solving the dilemma of an unplanned pregnancy, the details of the future fail to surface in the information before a decision is made.

A family is chosen and programming reinforced of all the “right and loving” messages that follow such an “unselfish” decision. While these statements ring true before all the negotiations have completed and before the baby has been born, it is the time after the birth that has not been truthfully and forcefully presented in concert with the other information given.Continue Reading

Fathers Want Rights

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Fathers stepping up and wanting to raise their children gain momentum with activities such as the one that will happen June 13, 2014 all over the country and in Washington, D.C. Be there to support the fathers who want to do the right thing – take responsibility for their children.
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